What I Wish My Father Had Taught Me

What I Wish My Father Had Taught MeIt couldn’t be happening.

The man in the black and white striped shirt was calling my teammate back from the end zone.  The only touchdown scored of the season for the sixth grade Ramey Razorbacks was being nullified by the yellow flag that lay at my feet.

Later that evening as I sat dejected in my room from the disappointment of losing the game, my father delivered one of those priceless teaching moments.  As dads, we often waste moments like this solving the problem for our kids.  Not my dad. He seized the opportunity to teach me how to think for myself; how to put the situation in perspective and find the right solution for me. What a gift.

As the saying goes, “give a man a fish, feed him for a day; teach a man to fish, feed him for a life time”. My dad taught me how to think for a life time.

Speaking of fishing, I couldn’t think of a better way to honor my dad on Father’s Day than to ask a “thinking” question. So I came up with one, and asked myself and a few friends…..

What’s the one thing you wish your father had taught you?

I’ll go first.  I wish my dad had taught me how to fish.  I had a great dad who taught me a lot, but somewhere in the business of life he missed that one.
Here’s how others answered:

  • How to change a tire
  • How to be a family leader
  • How to say “I love you”
  • How to handle money
  • How to handle conflict in the family
  • How to drive a tractor
  • How to have a light touch with life
  • How to save money
  • How to drive a stick shift
  • How to fix mechanical things
  • How to pray with my spouse and family
  • How to accept responsibility

My intent with the question is not to diminish all the wonderful things our fathers have taught us, but maybe cause us to take a look in the mirror and see what we might be missing. And, yes, I must admit, as I asked my kids this week “what do you wish I had taught you”, my vulnerability meter was in full throttle.

So join me in making this Father’s Day be the day when the gift you receive is the gift you give, which starts with a question:

“What do you wish I would teach you today?”

Happy Father’s Day

Oh, by the way, next time I see my kids I’ll be teaching them how to drive a stick shift.  And if you need a little “money teaching”, I can highly recommend Common Sense to Uncommon Wealth, 10 Simple Steps to Building Wealth by Jeff Pinkerton.

Let me hear about your Father’s Day experiences.

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